Broken...

 

Mirriam-Webster’s dictionary has multiple definitions and applications for the word “broken.” I will list a few here:

 “Violently separated into parts: shattered;”“damaged or altered by or as if by breaking;” "made weak or infirm;” “subdued completely: crushed, sorrowful;” "cut off: disconnected;" “not complete or full;” “disunited by divorce, separation, or desertion of one parent.”                                                                   -Mirriam-Webster.com/dictionary/broken

While each of these, if applied with the given example, mean different things, in quite different applications, I think they all sum up nicely how many of us feel.  

Judging by many songs of late, it seems brokenness is more common today. You Broke Me by Maria Mena, Broken by lovelytheband, Broken by Anson Seabra, as well as many others, describe brokenness in one way or another. When listening to these songs, you can’t help but feel a sense of pain. I realize some artists play songs they didn’t write but you sense some emotional pain nonetheless.   

Many years ago, a band named Radiohead had a huge hit called Creep. I won’t go into detail but the lead singer wrote it describing a period of his life and how he saw himself. To say the least, the name tells you it was not very good and dare I say, he was broken. For years, the band refused to play it at concerts but eventually begin to appreciate its value and begin playing it again.                                  

One song that really carries great meaning for me and speaks to my heart is Matthew West’s, Truth Be Told. He describes how he tells people he is fine when in reality he is torn up inside or broken. In one part of the song, he writes:

 

There’s a sign on the door saying “come as you are” but I doubt it. If we lived like it was true, every Sunday morning pew would be crowded. But didn’t you say the church should look more like a hospital? A safe place for the sick, the sinner, and the scarred, and the prodigals, like me. Truth be told, the truth is rarely told, am I the only one who says… I say, “I’m fine, yeah I’m fine oh I’m fine, hey I’m fine” but I’m not, I’m broken. And when it’s out of control I say it’s under control but it’s not, and you know it. I don’t know why it’s so hard to admit it, when being honest is the only way to fix it. There’s no failure, no fall, there’s no sin you don’t know already know. So let the truth be told.

 

I suspect many can relate to these lyrics; I know I can. How many of us have had to muster up the courage to walk through the church doors looking for healing only to be shunned?

Week after week, pastors stand in the pulpit and talk about those who don’t come to church. Have they ever taken an honest look at why so many don’t come? Do they really even care?

How many times do you stick your hand out when you only get bitten?

Business can cause one to justify shunning others, but I think in reality, it boils down more to a lack of empathy, caring, and love. Are we not called to love one another? Jesus said the two greatest commands were to love God and love our fellow man (Mat. 22:34-40).

So how are we doing?

Only Jesus Christ can heal the brokenness. But I am not willing to give a pass to those who use this as a cop-out. Did He not say that we are to love one another? Did He not also say that we are to visit the sick, the poor, the incarcerated, etc? (Mat. 25:31-46). Some of the most hateful and uncaring people are well respected members of the church. Jesus constantly used the Scribes, Pharisees, and others in His examples of the worst kind of sinner, boastful, proud, uncaring, and unrepentant. The people He seemed to speak positively about were those whose sins were great, but they admitted their sin and fell on their faces and turned from their sins.

In his book, Be Amazed: Restoring an Attitude of Wonder and Worship, Warren Wiersbe writes, “Wordly and ignorant spiritual leaders produce worldly and ignorant people, and this brings destruction to the land.” He continues, “As goes spiritual leadership, so goes the church, so goes morality; and as goes morality, so goes the nation. God’s people are both salt and light in society (Mat. 5:13-16); when they are corrupt, society becomes corrupt” (pg. 31).

If you are hurting friend, do not despise the church or, more importantly, God. Jesus said, “Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest…” (Mat. 11:27-30, NKJV). Jesus loves you so much, He knows the number of hairs on your head. He loves you so much, He walked away from His heavenly throne where He was seated next to the Father and came to earth, not as a king in a palace, but as a servant, lowly and poor. Then He went to the cross to pay for your sins and mine. He didn’t have too, He chose too.

I know many in the church have caused great harm, but they don’t represent Jesus. They are wolves in sheep’s clothing (Acts 20:25-31).

I urge you to seek out a good, bible believing church and who knows, maybe you will be that friend you were looking for to someone else who walks through the doors that is hurting.

May our Lord give you His peace, His strength, and His joy~

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Something Beautiful to Behold

 

I love to go out and gaze at the night sky. I always have. Looking at the many stars and the planets has always fascinated me. I marvel at the size and beauty of our universe. When I was just a boy, I dreamed of one day going to the moon and beyond. The thought of getting a closer look intrigued me.

Last night I went to a friend’s house and we sat around his fire pit. Even with a blazing fire, much like the stars we see, away from the fire there was this deep blackness. Have you ever noticed how light seems to shine the brightest in contrast to darkness?

As light dulls the beauty and brightness of a starlit night, so business and sin seem to dull the light of God, but as the beauty of a star shines through the darkness, whether we can see it or not, so God’s light shines through the darkness of sin, even when we cannot see it.

 

 “I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen, not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else.”      - C.S. Lewis

 

 “I can see the sun, but even if I cannot see the sun, I know that it exists. And to know that the sun is there – that is living.”         - Fyodor Dostoyevsky

 

When I look into the heavens and contemplate the massive size and complexity of the universe, I cannot help but be in awe of God. I believe that God created the universe “ex-nihilo,” out of nothing. I know this idea seems strange to many but is it not stranger still to assume it has always been? It had to come from something; things do not simply pop into existence without a cause. If they did, we would see evidence of it taking place around us today.

I know some will say, “so where did God come from?” and that is a fair question. I could go into more detail but that is not the purpose of this writing so I will leave it at this, if a thing comes into existence, it must have a cause that transcends time, space, and matter and God is that cause because God alone transcends time, space, and matter (If you would like to discuss further, please message me).

During my devotion this morning, I was thinking about last night’s view of the heavens and the beauty and majesty of all of creation. Then a thought occurred to me: in view of this marvelous creation, only man rejects God. Think about that for a minute. My mind cannot even grasp the distance across our galaxy alone and we think we can reject and/or judge God!

Many either reject God’s existence or simply reject God. Some say, “if He exists, He is a monster,” and present pain and suffering in the world, or some other notion, as evidence.

I think this is an arrogant and extremely prejudicial way of thinking. Many of these same people are offended at the thought that God would dare to judge them, yet they readily judge Him. Do they not see the hypocrisy?

God created the heavens and the earth (Gen. 1:1, 2:1, 2:4) and everything that was created (John 1:3). John the disciple and apostle begins his gospel:

 

“In the beginning was the Word (Jesus), and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through Him, and without Him nothing was made that was made. In Him was life, and the life was the light of men. And the light shines through the darkness, and darkness did not comprehend it” (John 1:1-5, NKJV).

 

So if God created everything, does He not have the right to set the rules?

Do you control, or try to control, who comes into your home? Do you ever lock your doors? If you own or run a business, do you pick and choose who to hire? Do you expect your employees to be honest? To show up on time? To be where they are supposed to be? To give you an honest day’s work? Do you have children? Do you expect them to be obedient? To listen to you? To show respect?

If you expect so much of others, I suspect you would hold them accountable for violating your rules, how can you judge God for doing the same thing? And in the grand scheme of things, who has more right to do so?

If you try to judge God for doing the same thing, you my friend, are a hypocrite.

The good news for you and me is this, “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8, NKJV).  

You see, you and I may have difficulty forgiving others, but God does not. He loves us so much, He is willing to forgive us for disobeying and rejecting Him. He loves us so much, He sent His one and only Son, the Lord Jesus, to suffer and die for everything (sin) we have done wrong (Romans 5:8). The New Testament writers calls this act of taking the judgement for our sins propitiation (Romans 3:25; Hebrews 2:17; 1 John 2:2, 4:10).

There is one caveat, to receive forgiveness, we must turn (repent) of our sins and do our best to honor Him. We will fall short but that’s okay, if we repent. To simply mouth the words but not truly mean it from the heart is not good enough, we must be sincere.

Friend, if you are tired of fighting against God and want to enjoy the fellowship with and the blessings of a personal relationship with the Creator, tell Him so. He is waiting patiently but there is a time that it will be too late. Please do not wait.

May God bless you and keep you~

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What Is A Real Man?

 

On social media I often see posts that start off with,

“A real man….”

This is often followed by, “puts his woman first,” “knows how to treat his lady,” “would die for his woman,” etc. I cannot say for certain that only women have posted these, but I can say that 100% of these posts I have seen are posted by women. While I do not argue against these statements, I do take issue with them in general for two reasons.

First, they appear, at least to me, to be used in a negative way. Often, I see them posted right after I have seen numerous posts bashing the last guy they were in a relationship with. This leads me to believe this is meant to be a jab at their ex, attacking his manliness or manhood.      I am quite confident that if the shoe were on the other foot and a man stated, “A real woman…,” it would be met with attacks from both women and men. Men are naturally inclined to defend women, a noble characteristic I have yet to see posted.   

Secondly, while many single mothers, my mom included, have tried to raise their sons to be good men, it is impossible for a mother to know how to teach her son to be a man, mainly because she is not a man. Can a lion teach a zebra how to be a lion? This is not meant to take away credit for trying but it is outside the realm of their knowledge.

Some mothers think they can simply find another man, not the biological father, to fill these shoes. Dr. Charles Stanley tells how his mother tried this approach with near disastrous results. You see, God gave children a mother and a father for good reason. Fathers are every bit as important as mothers and this is biblical.

Children raised in homes in any other setting than having the biological father present, with the exception of the father’s death, suffer tremendously. Promiscuity, drug and alcohol abuse, dropping out of school, incarceration, self-harm, and suicide rates go through the roof when the father is absent.

The next problem seems to be to lay the blame on the father for not being present. While this is certainly true in some cases, it is not true in all cases. In cases of divorce or separation, it is natural for both parents to want their kids but the evidence I have seen seems to point to two very different ideas. Fathers typically feel the kids would be better off living with their mother while moms tend to feel threatened and attempt to strip the father of all rights. I base these conclusions from first hand knowledge and statistical data. I make no claim that this is always the case but it does seem to be the prevalent thought.

Data also shows that most judges, especially in the past, have typically placed children, especially younger children, with the mother. While some order visitation, most never enforce it when the father is denied his rights. Again, look at the data.

Another complaint I have heard, a lot more lately, is that we have grown boys rather than men so finding a man is near impossible. Again, look at the data. Since the 1970’s, the number of children raised in a single parent home have continued to climb. Most of these kids have been raised by a single mom. The reason we have so many grown boys rather than men is the result of mothers raising their sons without the father present.

Young ladies, rather than attacking young men for not acting like men, perhaps you should blame bad mothering. Not only this, learn from their mistakes and do not repeat them.

I am not saying all single moms are guilty but if the shoe fits, wear it.

Maybe it’s time we, as a society, stopped attacking manhood and started recognizing the unique qualities God has given to men and women, fathers and mothers. Your desire to manipulate your ex using the kids needs to stop. What we are seeing is destroying our children. If you love your kids:

 

1.      Put God first

2.      Save yourself for your spouse (more likely to stay together)

3.      Do whatever you can to make your marriage work

4.      If separation is inevitable, co-parent equally as much as possible

5.      Encourage your kid’s relationship with the other parent

6.      Work to create the best environment for nurturing your kids  

7.      Stop using social media to bash your spouse, whether you are still together or not

 

This certainly does not apply to all single parents, neither does it only apply to mothers, but the reality is, manhood is under attack and many would see masculinity outlawed. I’m sure everyone has heard the term “toxic masculinity.” If not, check out your local public university.

If you really want to know what a real man should be, look to the Bible. While you’re at it, you might also look at what God says a real woman should be.

 

“Let he who is without sin cast the first stone”   - John 8:7

 

For more on this subject, check out:

   https://ken-kenscorner.blogspot.com/2015/07/redefining-family.html